Chapter 564: Getting married (four)
Chapter 564
"The problem is, I dare not. Because I don't know if I can be happy with him. What I am even more afraid is that he will not be happy with me. First of all, you should also know my family situation. , I have a five-year-old son. Although Zhiqiang and I are unmarried, I am going to marry Zhiqiang. In fact, this family can only be regarded as a combined family. Can a combined family be happy? Besides, people outside treat me There are a lot of rumors and rumors. In addition, the world always has a lot of misunderstandings about a woman who is unmarried and conceived. Can he not care if there is such a situation? Secondly, there is a difference in age between me and him. I am better than him. It must be several years older. Of course, the age difference may not be a big problem. However, as you can see, I am more mature than him. There will still be some differences in personalities between the two sides. I am afraid, I really want to live. Together, we will have a lot of friction. Will we be happy then? Before, I had no sense of security. You know where it comes from. You persuaded him to do this. I admit that he did it recently. These decisions really moved me and made me feel more at ease. However, Liu Yan, when it comes to deciding whether to get married, many things and many factors bother me. I can’t make up my mind, and I can’t give myself an answer. . Can you tell me the answer?" Wang Yaxin asked Liu Yan.
"I am afraid that I decided to get married on the impulse. After we got married, we could not get happiness, mainly because he was unhappy." Wang Yaxin continued.
Liu Yan looked at Wang Yaxin and said after a long time: "Sister Wang, do you know that there is a mental illness called premarital phobia?"
"Premarital phobia?" Wang Yaxin was stunned, but Liu Yan didn't expect Liu Yan to talk about it.
"If you are not allowed to marry Qiangzi, let you two just be boy and girl friends and continue to do so, will you have so many worries? Think about it carefully, as far as I know, you and Qiangzi did it before. There was a time when you got along as a boyfriend and girlfriend. During that time, did you have so many worries? No? This shows that it is not the things between the two of you that are difficult for you, but what is bothering you That marriage certificate, or marriage. It’s not that you have no confidence in the strong son, you are not sure about the relationship and the marriage. If I am not wrong, you must have been hurt emotionally or in marriage before. , So you are afraid of marriage. I think this is related to the failure of your last relationship with your child’s father, and also to the last time that a strong son abandoned you and ran away before marriage. In fact, you said that you are not sure. There are too many, in fact, it is only your own psychological function, it is your psychological barrier, and it has nothing to do with some small problems between the two of you in reality. The problems you mentioned are actually not factors that affect your marriage at all."
Hearing what Liu Yan said, Wang Yaxin was stunned. She didn't speak for a long time. She was a little shocked, because she had never thought of it like this. Perhaps this is the so-called authorities, fans, bystanders, clear it.
"Sister Wang, there is no problem of not being able to be together at all. The only problem is your own psychological barrier, which is your doubt and fear of marriage. Sister Wang, I think if you have been That’s right, it’s too unfair to Qiangzi. He is now wholeheartedly working for you, with his whole heart on you, waiting for your answer. But you have never given him a clear answer. He always asked him to wait indefinitely and torment. I think it’s not fair to him. What do you think?” Liu Yan said again, she still said very straight, not at all. speak.
Wang Yaxin lowered her head, nodded at last, and said: "Yes, it is indeed my business. I asked him to wait for my reply. It has been delayed for more than a month, but I still haven't given him a reply. ."
"Sister Wang, let me tell you the truth. I think you should overcome your own psychological barriers and hold hands with the strong son. Humans, too sensible can sometimes seem fearful. In life, we need reason, but Emotionally, I think reason is a very weak thing. Feelings are originally emotions and should be sentimental. If feelings are still so sensible, why do they need feelings? What is the meaning of feelings?” Liu Yan said .
Wang Yaxin looked at Liu Yan blankly. Liu Yan's words shocked her a lot. She hadn't thought about many things before. Just like Liu Yan said, feeling is originally a kind of feeling, it is a kind of perceptual situation. If you are so rational about feelings, why do you need feelings? Wang Yaxin seemed to finally know why she was always so tangled and troubled with Fang Zhiqiang because she was too sensible. Regarding feelings, you should have followed your feelings in spite of yourself.
After listening to Liu Yan's words, she suddenly seemed to see the sky aside from the clouds and mist, and her mood suddenly became open-minded.
"Liu Yan, thank you." Wang Yaxin looked at Liu Yan and said with a smile.
"Hi, thank me for what I am doing, I'm just talking nonsense, I just sincerely hope you two can be happy, I am very anxious to see you two look like this. The main thing is, you have your turn to take care of him after you are married Now, it’s not like I am his wife. I take care of him here every day. Look, I do everything I eat and drink, including the hygiene upstairs. I’m doing it for you. Work to take care of him for you." Liu Yan said with a smile.
Wang Yaxin also laughed.
"What are you two talking about, smiling so happily." At this time, Fang Zhiqiang came in with a cake and a few bottles of red wine.
"Nothing, I didn't say you anyway." Liu Yan said.
"I don't believe it. I can feel it from the wretched laughter of the two of you. You are definitely talking bad about me and talking about my embarrassment." Fang Zhiqiang said while driving the red wine.
Wang Yaxin opened the cake and inserted candles. Liu Yan took a lighter from Fang Zhiqiang and lit the candles.
"Zhiqiang, make a wish." Wang Yaxin said to Fang Zhiqiang.
Fang Zhiqiang smiled and closed his eyes to make a wish.
"Open your eyes and you must say it." Liu Yan coaxed.
"How can I say it when I make a wish? It won't work if I say it." Fang Zhiqiang glared at Liu Yan.
"Who said that it won't work if you say it out, you have to say it to others to know." Liu Yan said, while Fang Zhiqiang blinked.
Liu Yan meant that Fang Zhiqiang took advantage of this opportunity to make a wish to propose to Wang Yaxin. She had just helped Fang Zhiqiang to do the preliminary preparations and preparations. However, Fang Zhiqiang obviously didn't understand Liu Yan's good intentions, but instead gave Liu Yan a roll of eyes.